It may be true: Your aging relative needs more and more care. You know you are the best person for the job. But it’s too much to do on top of your own work. Think twice before exiting the workforce, however. There are some stiff financial consequences.
For example, if you are midcareer, you are in your prime income-earning years. This is when you want to double down on retirement savings. If your employer offers retirement matching funds, you want to be in a position to grab them! And continue contributing to Social Security.
According to a Met Life study:
- Men age 50 and over who left work to care for a parent lost an average of $89,107 in wages. The impact on their Social Security benefits was $144,609. Loss of pension income, $50,000. Altogether, early retirement cost male employees $283,716 over their lifetime.
- Caregiving women age 50 and over got hit much harder. They tended to leave work sooner. Lost wages averaged $142,693. Women lost $131,351 in Social Security. Figuring lost pension at $50,000, early retirement cost female employees $324,044.
Consider these options:
- Hiring help at home may be less expensive than losing your wages. Suggest sharing the cost with your siblings. (Show them this article!) Then no one among you bears the sole financial burden.
- You might take advantage of an adult day center to provide care during your work hours.
- Ask about flex-time options so you can work when others can care for mom or dad.
- Investigate Family Medical Leave. If your company is big enough, you may be able to take weeks or months off. (It is unpaid.) That may get you through a crisis and buy you time to make other arrangements.
In your generous desire to help, be careful you don’t shortchange your own future.
Is it time to get your siblings more involved?
At Debra Levy Eldercare Associates we’ve seen one sibling become the primary caregiver while others seem not to pitch in. It’s not necessarily a matter of laziness. Often it’s a matter of not understanding the needs. As the Metro DC expert in family caregiving, we can help you meet with your siblings and work out a plan that addresses everyone’s concerns. Let’s start the conversation. Give us a call at 301-593-5285.