Coping with the Holiday Blues
Caring for a
seriously ill family member can lend a tinge of blue to the holidays.
It may be
sadness that cherished family rituals are no longer possible.
Or you may be
worried that this year will be the last for a sick or ailing loved one.
thought of visiting relatives is simply exhausting.
Here are some
ways to handle these common stressors.
It doesn’t have to be “all or nothing.” Even if some family customs are no longer realistic, embrace what’s still possible. And let go of the guilt-laden “shoulds.”
- Keep it simple. Perhaps you still gather at Mom and Dad’s, but order a precooked, take-out meal. Or have everyone contribute to the meal. Try to capture the essence in a way that no one person shoulders a big burden.
- Focus on the most meaningful activities. Your energy and your loved one’s energy are limited! Pick one ritual that truly gives you that holiday lift and consider any others an “extra gift” of the season.
“anticipatory grief.” You’re not crazy if pulling out your holiday sweater brings
on a bout of tears.
- A holiday can sharpen awareness of life’s
may feel grief about the losses you have already experienced. And grief as you
realize your loved one may not be with you next year. These feelings are
normal. If possible, share them with someone who understands.
- Celebrate your loved one’s presence. Trying to “make
this holiday the best” may distract you from spending quality time with your
relative. Instead, take the opportunity to cherish what you have now, and revel
together in shared memories of holidays past.
normal self-care routines. In this season of extra stress, it’s especially important to get
enough sleep, eat sensibly, and exercise regularly.
Do the holidays feel overwhelming?
You are not alone. As the Metro DC experts in family caregiving, we get calls from many families during this season. Give us a call at 301-593-5285. We at Debra Levy Eldercare Associates can help lighten your load and add some lightness to your spirit as well. Let’s start the conversation.